Constant state of paranoia: Anything you do causes her to become suspicious and prompts the following questions; "Why are you going to the gym? Why did you get a haircut? Why did you buy new underwear? Why did you shave? Why did you brush your teeth? Why are you taking a shower? Why are you so happy?Why are you wearing this?who are you texting or calling? Do you still love me?Say you love me?
Desperate and Needy: Women think the easiest way to get a man is being desperate and needy. And sometimes it does work for a short while but never lasts because men are turned off by women who behave like that.Insecure woman doesn't feel great about her self no being needy or forcing to be wanted and desired is a tool to make her feel good about her self. Desperate woman is over emotional when her insecurity is at threat uses crying and sympathy to keep or win her partner.
She's a control freak: She will start acting in a very controlling and authoritarian manner. It will likely begin very subtly and will creep up on you slowly. You might even find it cute and will cave into it. Soon enough it becomes irritating and then downright crazy.
Making you ask permission: When you are with a controlling woman you will soon find yourself in a position that you will need ask her permission on everything before you are allowed to do it. Eventually though this will not be a problem as you will learn that you have no right to ask for anything and that everything in your life will be managed and controlled by her.Controlling freak wants to control everything concerning your life to satisfy her insecurities keeping your calendar occupied in order to tie you down and gain total control over you.
She belittles you: Bullying and belittling are part of the arsenal of an insecure person. Insecure woman doesn't love or feel beautiful about her self doesn't have goals or ambitious in life.She settles with the least and doesn't think she deserves better because of the fear of losing what she has and thinking it's the best she can get.To make themselves feel better they try and make you feel small. In a relationship it is a subtle and subconscious attack on your self esteem. She wants to drag you down to her own self hating level by. Because she can not understand why you feel good or highly about your self she thinks her only way of keeping you is to knock your self esteem down so much that you eventually come to depend on her and are on a mental leash.
Abusive behavior: Some women will even hurt themselves or their partners as a sign of being insecure or not being able to deal with their emotions and being mentally unstable They can hit, throw an object or cut themselves or their partners as in order to be in control and intimidate. The reason might be how she was raised and other factors, traumas from the past or she just mentally unstable. Also such women have anxiety and panic disorders.They panic and stress over simple matters taking life too serious. Emotional abuser will make you feel guilty about anything you do that she doesn't want so you can't help but do her way. She'll make you feel you have failed in life and she will use you as an excuse for her own problems.
She requires daily reports: She expects you to call her every hour of the day, and if you forget or miss a call, then you'll find tons of text messages and missed calls not to mention a long explanation to do. Insecure woman wants you to be available for her 24/7 she calls you pick immediately it's sick and a red flag in every relationship it's called possessive, controlling, insecure and jealous. Key word ABUSIVE!
She's a snoop: She wants access to every personal detail of your life. She goes through your voice mail, reads your e-mail, go through your phone and asks your friends personal questions about you when you're not around.Or reach out to your family members.
Guilt and emotional blackmail: When the relationship comes to an end insecure woman would do just about anything to force her partner to stay in a relationship because she lacks confidence, doesn't feel good about her self and fear of being rejected. Many insecure women guilt their partners to stay in a relationship. The problem with insecure woman she has no identity nor sense of self worth. If your woman has constantly made you feel guilty she has an insecurity problem. Because she has low self esteem and invests herself far too heavily in the relationship she cannot handle the fact that you are deriving any sort of pleasure from anyone other than her. This type of women like to play blame games it's all your fault if anything goes wrong in the relationship.
Insecure woman can not stand break ups if you break up with her she'll make sure you are breaking up with the entire world and everyone should know about your dirty secrets by exposing, sharing your embarrassing information or threatening to spill all your Secrets to your family and friends and tell everyone you are the bad guy.Insecure woman seeks revenge she will use your weakness and past mistakes against you.
Investigative skills: When you come home from a night out with the boys, she asks for every minute detail... including how many drinks you had, how quickly you drank them and who paid each time.
Jealousy: Jealousy is a result of insecurity. It is a reaction that is triggered by some external event, such as you talking to an attractive woman. Being jealous is different to be insecure but it is one of the causes and signs of insecurity. A little bit of jealousy is nothing to worry about and is just a protective instinct. Jealousy is something to be concerned about and is a tell tale sign of insecurity.
She cannot handle someone who doesn't need herWhile we often tell our partners "I can't live without you" as a romantic gesture in reality we could all live without our partners if we had to. They might leave us or death might take them from us. Life would go on. It is not a pleasant thought but it is the reality. No person ever physically needs the other in a relationship.
Needy people are unattractive and those who are aloof and non needy are very attractive.One of the key signs of insecurity when a woman doesn't deal with breakup gracefully she will make sure you miserable manipulating the children, talking trash about you in front of the children and using them against you.
Had she shown them at the start of the relationship perhaps you would have run a mile, but now you don't. She subconsciously knows this which is why she hides it in the beginning, waiting until you have her trust before she unleashes the full fury of her insecurity.
Secure people understand that they don't ever need the other person. Even if they have been in a committed relationship for years they stay there by choice not by need. If you don't descend into this petty neediness she will try her full range of controlling, demeaning and authoritative behavior to try and get you to conform to her neediness.
It is playing safe that we create a world of utmost insecurity!!
